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Don't hate me because I'm beautiful...

Posted On: August 23rd, 2005 at 3:36 am

Working in a restaurant, I see a lot of ...interesting people.  I've  never forgotten the transgendered "man" (woman?) who was seated at one of my tables last summer.

She was born a woman, clearly.  Petite, brunette, even pretty.  Except for the flimsy "moustache" and "goatee" of a testosterone-ridden 8th grader.  She looked to be a mechanic or something, wearing dirty jeans, tank top and flannel overshirt.  Her hands were strangely feminine, but clearly had seen a lot of work and not much soap before coming to lunch that day. Media and cultural ideals of feminine beauty certainly were things she had overcome.

She was clearly trying not to be a woman, but she was obviously NOT passing for a man.  

So when another woman trying to pass herself off as a man, using the title of Reverend and "pastoring" a couple churches in Iowa, gives advice on what a woman's true beauty is according to God at the ELCA's Cafe (a.k.a. big fat barrel o' fish), I was sadly not surprised that the entire article failed to mention Jesus, much less the Cross.  Yet she purports to tell others what God has to say about the matter apart from Christ.

Bemoaning the media and the unattainable ideals it sets before women, she makes passing reference to God but only to comment about how unconditionally He loves us.  

This certainly can't be what the God of Peace intends for us. We were created in God's image, weren't we? Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, aren't they? So if we hate our bodies, as our culture's media encourages us to do, does that mean we hate God? Is that like saying, "God, your creation isn't good enough. I'd love you more if I looked better in a miniskirt?"

Yep.  That's what we say.  We hate God.  We arrogantly tell Him just what He needs to do in our lives to get us to love Him more.  And being the superficial, appearance-driven women that we are, who wouldn't love God more if He made us supermodel drop dead gorgeous?  I know I certainly would.

The author says that body image is a faith issue.  "As a matter of faith, it is imperative that we make peace with our bodies, that we actively reject this destructive ideal, and embrace ourselves as unconditionally as God does."

This is misleading.  Maybe even a logical fallacy.  How does God embrace us?  Sure, red and yellow, black and white, we are precious in His sight...He doesn't care what we look like.  God still loves us when we're feeling fat (even if we are!).  But He does not love us unconditionally because we are somehow just so unconditionally loveable He can't help Himself.  This "pastor" neglects to tell her readers that God loves us unconditionally - in Christ.  It is only because of Christ that God loves us at all.  Not because we're pretty or have healthy body images or reject the media's standard of beauty.

Scripture tells us that Christ has sanctified and cleansed His Bride with the washing of water by the Word (Baptism) where also He gives her His perfect beauty, "That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish." (Eph 5:26-27)  You don't get more beautiful than that.  We look in the mirror and see all our blemishes, wrinkles, flab, cellulite, stretch marks -- nothing but flaws.  Christ looks on us and says, "Not my Bride.  My beautiful Bride doesn't have any flaws.  No spots, wrinkles...not even sins.  I took them all to the Cross for her."  

I agree with the author.  Beauty is a faith issue.  But it's not a matter of convincing ourselves to make peace with our bodies and the diversity of our flaws despite all the pressure from the media to uphold an unattainable ideal. It is not a faith issue because we believe ourselves to be beautiful.  Beauty is a faith issue because only by faith do we believe what God says about us in Christ.  Only by faith alone do we receive His beauty, won for us on the Cross and delivered to us in the waters of our Baptism.

In Christ, God says you're beautiful.  Faith says, "Amen, I am beautiful, as you say."



Edited on: August 23rd, 2005 3:42 am


Comments:


Re: Don't hate me because I'm beautiful...

Posted On: August 23rd, 2005 at 7:26 am by Rev. Todd Peperkorn
This, I think, is the best post of yours I've read. Brilliant. Thank you.


Re: Don't hate me because I'm beautiful...

Posted On: February 21st, 2006 at 4:17 pm by Christopher Martin
Interesting post you've written here. It never ceases to amaze me how the ELCA has made the shift from a church, to a social club that abuses the name "Lutheran" and will do anything it can to avoid mentioning Jesus Christ as Savior, or preaching Law and Gospel anymore.

Re: Don't hate me because I'm beautiful...

Posted On: August 24th, 2007 at 5:08 am by cat
Quote: "She was clearly trying not to be a woman, but she was obviously NOT passing for a man."

This is the end result of women's liberation. Along with the tee-shirts that said:

"Boys are stupid - throw rocks at them"

Of course this campaign backfired. Now you scum American women are the hated ones. Happily, most abortions worldwide are preformed on gestating females. It couldn't have happened to a nicer bunch of folks.
Purim - 2007 HaHaHa

I got a better one:
"Just as dodo birds aren't real birds so also American women are not real human beings"







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